While these words sound like wisdom from an ancient and inscrutable oriental sage, like Sun Tzu, in The Art of War, they were actually written by the twentieth-century western sage Albert Einstein. They represent an especially helpful concept for those dealing with health issues, and they describe a cornerstone of our approach at Confluence Wellness Center.
It is easy to get caught up in self-pity when dealing with a difficult health problem. We can feel overwhelmed and victimized by our illnesses, and it can feel as if we are in a struggle with something attacking us from outside, for no apparent reason. We often wonder “why is this happening to me?” and can feel like failures at life for being sick, especially if we are chronically or seriously ill.
Sondra Ray, one of our teachers, used to say that everything that is up in our lives, is up for healing and release, including illness. We believe that is an extremely powerful and valuable approach to life. When we are sick we are getting a communication that we need to change things we are doing, or develop new understandings. Illness is not only a hardship, it’s an opportunity for improvement. The pain we feel from putting a hand down on a hot stove is actually vital and necessary for our well-being, as it reminds us to be more prudent and stop doing what is hurting us. In the same way, all illness can be understood as a form of communication from our inner selves.
When we see each symptom and illness in this way, as an opportunity for healing, release, and growth, we become empowered. Dr. Bernie Siegal, the noted progressive cancer specialist, described it this way: he said that the goal of his work with his patients was to get them to change from “why me?” to “try me!”
If we understand that illness is the result of choices we have made, we can make new choices to create a new, improved, and healthier outcome for ourselves. This shows us we are actually in control.
Many times patients have come to us after an injury or crisis, and in the course of taking their health histories we have discovered that they have been living with longstanding problems that they didn’t know were addressable, problems they thought they just had to live with. The symptoms that induced them to seek care actually turned out to be vehicles that delivered them for healing on a deep level. In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.